Classy Black Women




A few weeks ago I threw my support behind the movie Red Tails. I take it back.

I’ve never been one who’s afraid to admit when I’m wrong. It doesn’t happen often ;) .... but when it does I step up.

Reading about the classic story blatant Hollywood racism in the case of Red Tails really annoyed the crap out of me.

But I didn’t have the full story about the movie before supporting it.

For one, this movie does not have one black female part in the whole thing. Not a flashback nor a photo keepsake. One of my commenters mentioned it first. Additionally, I read that Jasmine Sullivan (a black girl who rocks) was cut out of the movie before it was released.

Secondly, for some reason the black male writers and directors felt it necessary to throw a fictional side-story in the movie where one of the pilots falls in love with a white Italian female. By many accounts of actual Tuskegee airmen, this type of thing was DEFINITELY not common. At least not common enough to show up in the first feature film documenting their lives.

So after plenty of reflection I had to sit back and say to myself, is there more to this story than what George Lucas spread to the media to promote his film and try to make his money back?

Is it possible that Hollywood financiers decided not to throw their money behind this film because it had an all-black MALE cast with a random interracial storyline that didn’t make much sense?

Who Are They Selling This To?
By far, black women are the main consumers in the black community. The latest stat was that blacks make over $1 trillion in purchases each year and that of that trillion, black women control 85% of all buying power in the black community.

Maybe, just maybe those Hollywood big wigs saw the writing on the wall. They saw that a movie containing all black male characters, particularly ultra-sketchy types like Terrance Howard, zero black females and a random foreign white woman (especially considering that racially charged time period), does not have much of a market in 2012.

Just who is going to the movies to support black films? Who do you think was the largest group supporting this movie in particular?

BLACK WOMEN.

Yes, it is a major slap in the face to make a film devoid of black female characters and then expect black female dollars to support it.

So I absolutely must join the other smart black female voices out there who basically said "no thanks" to supporting this movie in particular going forward. I apologize for supporting something without getting the whole story. 

By not supporting Red Tails, it doesn’t mean that black women don’t support the real Tuskegee airmen. It just means we don’t support the bamboozlement of black women.

If you want to take a dive into the black experience to make a difference in the future Mr. Lucas, just be sure you don’t neglect the 50% of the black community that makes 85 % of the purchases.


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Whitney Elizabeth Houston, August 9, 1963 – February 11, 2012.

I felt strongly compelled to write a blog post after hearing that one of my favorite childhood celebrity role models, Whitney Houston, had passed.

Yes, role model. I said it. I admit it. I wanted to be like the younger Ms. Houston. She was an elegant, beautiful and talented black woman who I absolutely adored. After I first listened to her sing the Greatest Love of All, I was hooked.

I still remember taking a deep breath in preparation for holding out that last note:

“Find your strength in love………………………..”

Her voice gave me chills down my spine and goosebumps up my arms. To this day I still can’t put anyone above Whitney Houston in the vocal category.

I followed all of her videos. That was “back in the day” when Twitter and YouTube didn’t exist. We watched videos on television, MTV and weekend or late night video shows. She also performed the national anthem (The Star Spangled Banner) at Super Bowl 1991, which blew everyone away. See it here:



Though Whitney had her challenges later in life, she was an inspiration to many young girls like me when she first hit the scene. She was a wholesome yet fun lady to watch whether performing on stage or in a movie. (Do you remember The Preacher's Wife?) I would go so far to say that I followed Ms. Houston so much that she played a role in my becoming the classy black woman that I am today.  

When I think about what young girls of today have available to look up to as far as musicians and entertainers in the mainstream media, I am very very thankful for Whitney. And anyone who says that the way musicians, actors, public figures and other entertainers carry themselves don’t affect how some kids turn out just doesn’t want to hear the truth.

I won’t say much else here. Just that I love you and thank you Ms. Whitney Houston.

Check out some of my favorite Whitney videos:



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You Say You're Not Black... Who Said You Were?

While browsing around in the blogosphere recently, I came across an article by a Dominican woman who felt the need to proclaim that she was not black. She identifies as Latina/Asian and that is that.

My question to her, and others who think like her, is this… who’s to say the black American community would accept you in the first place?

There seems to be this idea in the minds of some non-blacks that black people are desperate to “claim” people who are not explicitly or clearly black. Such as Latinos and those mixed with many different races. Not so.

A few confused black people, maybe. But the majority of us, nope.

Being black is an experience. It's a constant struggle. It comes with many ups and downs. We suffer many injustices, but yet we still keep our humor. We are so innovative and dynamic to the point where young kids across the world in Japan strive to look black and emulate black culture. 

When blacks do get television shows and media attention, we dominate the airwaves and magazines. When we do decide to come together and fight for something, whoa.... watch out.

Our ancestors not only survived the slave trade but many of them also went out there and fought for our civil rights. Many non-black minorities came in after most of the struggle was over.  They benefited from the freedoms that blacks (and some progressive whites) fought for. Many other minority groups came into this country after all was said and done.

We’re the originators of many things in this country, and have helped America become what it is today. In fact, if not for African-Americans who slaved and fought for this country, I doubt the U.S. would have been strong or monied enough to win the many wars it did on its way to its current status as a world power.

So why again do people like this woman believe that regal black Americans would want to somehow “adopt” her into this royal heritage based on her skin tone alone? 

Being black in America is something that you earn, not something that you’re granted. You don’t just skate on in because you have browned skin.

Bottomline to those who vehemently want to separate themselves from black culture: no, you’re not black. Proud black folks know the deal. Please carry on with your lives, whatever you identify with.


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After peeking into the trash can among the dregs of the hip hop culture yesterday, I feel the need to dust off my shoulders and cleanse myself with some positive news in black lady land.

Keke Palmer. You know her, that cute, bubbly young motivated sister who managed to become one of the first young black girls to get her own show on Nickelodeon, True Jackson. She was also honored at last year’s Black Girls Rock awards.

Keke Palmer
Well I feel a post about this sweet young classy black lady is well overdue.

Keke was recently twittering about some very serious matters that are affecting teens nationwide, namely suicide.

In the past couple of months alone, there have been multiple teen suicides due to bullying. Young ignorant kids who are angry and miserable themselves have taken to cyber-bullying youngster who they, for some reason, think are “lesser” than them.

A young girl named Ashley Duncan, 17, was the latest case of a teen who was incessantly bullied and decided that the best way out of her misery was to just shoot herself dead.

Keke opened up and tweeted about how drug use can cause teens to make these very poor decisions. Ashley was reportedly using ecstasy at the time of her death. Ms. Palmer highlighted that drugs like ecstasy have been linked to depression.

Keke also talked about her own struggles with self-esteem in the past:

I think I'm BEAUTIFUL! I didn't start feeling that way completely until I liked the person on the INSIDE, and that's real.      

What’s really beautiful is that a girl at her young age would get that. Some women in their 30s and 40s don’t fully like the person that’s on the inside yet. It took me until my late twenties to finally start truly loving who I am as an individual. Now, seriously, anyone who doesn’t like me or who I am or what I have to say can go kick rocks as far as I’m concerned.

But teenagers aren’t as fortunate to have that type of confidence. This is another reason why I started ClassyBlackLady.com. This is why I work to encourage and uplift young girls.

So there we have it folks: a lovely black female role model for young girls of all races. She understands the importance of advising and empowering those who are troubled instead of adding to the problems of our society.

Thank you so much Ms. Palmer, keep doing what you’re doing.

Check Out Keke’s video The One You Call






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BET Bans Nicki Minaj Stupid Hoe Video and ClassyBlackLady.com is in full support of that decision.

I have to immediately give props to BET for setting their foot down and banning Nicki Minaj’s Stupid Hoe video. In the past I've written off Minaj as a nuisance, like a fly that needs to be swatted, and ignored her antics but she's a habitual line-stepper. It's got to be addressed.

Before I wrote this post, I decided to watch the video on Youtube to give it a fair judgment.

It was very painful to watch. 2/3rds of the people who watched and voted gave it a big thumbs down.

It's no wonder why. In the video she works very hard to be over the top like Lady Gaga. But unlike Lady Gaga, she’s not about empowering anybody through her lyrics.

Throughout the video she just calls another woman (basically representing all women who don’t like her I guess) a “stupid hoe” over and over again. How delightful.


Is This a Song?

No, it’s not. It’s just a flat out attack on women… and this time unfortunately it’s launched by a female.

You would think in this day and age Minaj would rather use her position of fame to uplift and empower women and girls (particularly black girls) to do positive things.

Nope. She’d rather just shoot for becoming the female version of Lil Wayne, the same guy who said black women would look better “red” as in very light skinned.

Out for "Delf"

Ironically, earlier today I was watching the Tupac documentaries. I don’t like a lot of Pac’s language in his songs but I do respect the fact that he tried to make positive changes in the black community.

In one of the documentaries he explained why he calls some females bitches in his songs and distinguished them from the everyday women in his life who are strong and beautiful. He basically explained that the “bitches” and “hos” he raps about are only out for what they can get for themselves and don’t care about anything or anyone else.

I’ve never bought this argument from rappers ("well, if you’re not a bitch or a ho it doesn’t apply to you...blah blah") and still think it’s flat out disrespectful to women in general to use that language in a song.

But watching Nicki Minaj in action in this video, I do understand more what he meant now about the selfish, trifling females out there that give all women a bad name.

Nicki Minaj is the perfect example of the reason why I created the Classy Black Lady blog in the first place. I imagine a lot of black woman empowerment blog mistresses might agree.

She’s a female who is only out for “delf.” She was created from the bottom up (pun intended) by the sexist rap culture that is and has always been dominated by males. She does whatever's necessary to make her money and stay famous. She's chosen to go along with the same program that has attempted to keep millions of women, black women in particular, down in their “place.”

And this isn’t the first time Nicki Minaj has attacked women.

About a year ago she put a song out called “Did It On Em” where she referred to black girls as “nappy headed hos.” A few people made some noise about it, but she got a pass on that nonsense. 

A few months ago I tweeted about how in Drake’s somewhat uplifting song “Make Me Proud” she was the one who had to come on the song and refer to a woman as a ho.

So with this post and after viewing “Stupid Hoe,” I’m gonna go ahead and add Nicki Minaj to my Just Say No to Rap That Disrespects Black Women campaign.

Please black ladies, don’t allow yourself to be brainwashed with the glitz and glitter of a catchy beat, colorful costume and Hollywood BS. Keep your $$ in your pocket until a more empowering woman rapper hits the scene. And please don’t let your daughters idolize this sad and very confused female. Maybe one day she’ll wake up too, but let's not hold our breath.







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Hollywood turned its back on Red Tails, the new movie that tells the story of the Tuskegee airmen. Please give racist Hollywood execs the SLAP they sorely need by going out to support the film.

Red Tails movie officially hit theaters yesterday. This movie has an all-black cast (at least the major roles) -- a rarity in hollywood for an action film. It tells the story of the heroic black Tuskegee Airmen. These men bravely went where other pilots would not and helped American win World World 2.

George Lucas, the movie’s producer, had to fund this film out of his own pocket to the tune of $60 million. All because as he confirmed recently, Hollywood investors turned him down time and again. They basically told him that they don’t know what to do with an all black cast.

Now doesn’t that just burn your biscuits?

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The Tuskegee Airmen
Hollywood execs will invest in the umpteenth movie about a bland white woman who meets a bland white man and lives happily ever after, but won’t fund a film that documents a key historical moment.

Not to mention, Americans could use a patriotic movie these days – not another Disney animated flick. Don’t ya think?

Ironically, Hollywood execs have been wondering why they’re sufferiing pitiful box office figures lately. They’ve tried to blame this on the theft of movies (bootlegs, etc).

No Hollywood, don’t blame it on piracy, blame it on the stupid meaningless trite movies you make year in and out! Give people something that they actually want to see and they just might pull money out of their wallets.

Now when I ask that black people go out to support this movie, I don’t just mean black ladies. Too often it is black women who go out and support important black films like this one with their movie dollars. Black men please also step up and support this movie as well. Bring your kids. Don’t download it – go to the theater or purchase it on your cable television (if available).

With the support of the black community we can help make this film a blockbuster and prove all of those Hollywood racists wrong. An all black cast in a movie is a box office draw and we need to see more positive black faces on the silver screen. 


How much do you want to bet that if this movie is a success Hollywood will come out and try to claim some credit or dispute Lucas' claims of the constant snubs he received?

Go see Red Tails and slap Hollywood racism down to the ground where it belongs. The world is ready and waiting for more films that aren’t whitewashed or continually showing American blacks in a stereotypical light.


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By buying into the “white is right” mentality, some blacks are playing the role of white supremacists.

So Beyonce is back in the news with another accusation of skin lightening for her upcoming album cover.

Now I don’t know if she has bleached her skin Michael Jackson or Sammy Sosa style, used extra-light foundation or it’s just the lighting of the photo shoot, but regardless of the process that was used she looks like a blonde-haired white woman.

The problem I see with this is that when black women condone this type of thing they misrepresent black women as a whole. By lightening your skin or attempting to look more white you’re giving a big slap to people of African descent.

Now I’ve read people justify skin lightening with the comment that white people tan their skin, so what’s so wrong with it?

Well the same way that blacks are slapping their ancestors by attempting to look more white, whites are doing the same to their people by trying to look more black. It’s not okay either way. It's trying to be something that you're not.

Some Blacks are White Supremacists

I think it’s sad and disgusting when blacks sell out to the idea of “white is right.” And it permeates throughout the psyches of our young people.

I had the displeasure of reading a sampling from a light skin, dark skin war on Twitter. One of the top tweets was a disparaging remark about dark-skinned girls.

Team dark skinned and team light skinned? Really, young people?

Listen, you’re team BLACK and your parents should be telling you that. Whites have been trying for centuries to keep black people divided, and you’re just helping them out! You should just go ahead and join the Klan because you’re acting just like a white supremacist when you put down dark-skinned people.

The original man and woman were a pair of dark-skinned black people in sub-saharan Africa. All colors and variations of people came from them. Educate yourself, watch The Human Family Tree on Netflix.

Brown and Dark-Skinned Black Girls, You’re Beautiful

Melanin is a blessing --
the more the better!
Before I get too wound up here, let me get to the main reason why I wrote this post. It was not to lambast Beyonce or any other celebrity who has chosen to take on more Eurocentric features in order to be accepted by mainstream America. That’s their choice and one of the main reasons why I just can’t support many mainstream artists. They’re sold to the highest bidder.

I wrote this post to specifically tell brown and dark skinned girls everywhere that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and don’t let anyone ever tell you any different! You do not have to look white in order to be a gorgeous human being.

You were blessed with extra melanin in your skin which will increase the chances that you’ll still look 25 when you’re 45 without plastic surgery (think Cynthia Bailey and Iman). Thank God for that!

I know it’s hard, but do your best to ignore the mainstream media. Media outlets have been brainwashing the masses with messages that make them insecure about their beauty for decades (and they will pay for it).

Put down those magazines with whites and white-washed blacks splashed across the cover and pick up a book that will enrich your mind and give you ammo when you’re faced with a hater —

Examples:



Selected Writings and Speeches of Marcus Garvey, who was very authentically pro-black.

I haven't seen the Dark Girls Documentary yet, but maybe that will help too.

Parents if you’re reading this and you have a child who may be struggling with skin color issues, PLEASE get her something that will empower her with information and give her more confidence going forward.

Let your lovely light shine young beautiful black girls. I love you!


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