Black women, you are the ish! Be proud of your African heritage, looks, traits, and roots. 

Black is beautiful. Young black ladies, show more pride in your African features, history, and uniqueness.

- Hold your head up high whenever you are walking down the street. Don't walk around looking at the ground or feeling sad -- you are a strong African-esque woman ACT LIKE IT!

- Stop trying to assimilate to white culture--that is a recipe for disaster. You might have white friends, but that doesn't mean you have to be just like them. You are not white and you will never be white--get that through your beautiful head and be thankful, because many white people envy your rich culture, strength in the face of adversity, and your distinctive African features. They try to make you feel inferior based on their own personal inferiority complex. You are an African American woman and you're beautiful in your own right--remember that. How ironic that whites spend thousands of dollars each year (dark tanning, injections, and implants) trying to look just like YOU! Celebrate your own culture black woman.

- Get in shape girl. Health and fitness should be a top priority for you as a strong black woman. Who said you have to be rail thin and unhealthy like most celebrities and models? Aim for a curvy, healthy and fit physique. Visit a website like Black Women's Health or Livestrong (where you can set goals and "dares" for yourself and make commitments with other members) to start getting on the track to better health.

- Get rid of the negative people around you. if you have a friend, boyfriend, or even a family member who's constantly saying negative things about black women or black people in general EX that person out of your life permanently. He/she isn't worth your presence! The influence of others is very real, it's why kids who grow up being told they aren't going to amount to anything usually don't and have very low self-esteem. 

- If you wear a messy weave or wig, take that fake mess out of your hair and proudly display your African locks. Who said you have to wear your hair bone straight like a white girl--the perm factory that makes millions off of your regular purchases? There's nothing wrong with wearing your hair (even if it's relaxed) in a big puffy or wavy Afro style along with a pair of huge hoop earrings (another African accessory) sometimes -- spray your AFRICAN hair with some oil sheen and go ! Go to Black Hair Media and network with other black ladies regarding natural or healthy relaxed styles. You might be surprised at how the "others" stare and gawk when they see a black woman proud of her African heritage and roots walking around with her head held high.

- Surround yourself with like minded african american women and positive brothers who love black people. If you live in a mostly white area, go one of the "chocolate cities" (DC, philadelphia, chicago, atlanta) to see how progressive black people there love themselves and each other. Leave the negative black websites alone and visit other positive black websites dedicated to celebrating black female beauty, such as Coco and Creme, Brown Sista, and Hello Beautiful and My Black is Beautiful.

Love Tabby

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Black women empowerment blogs are popping up all over the internet, thriving and mark the beginning of a long-needed revolution in the community.

I've decided to start a running list of all of some of the popular black women empowerment blogs on the net. I've provided a link to an interesting post from each website. Feel free to add more to my blog roll and spread it to your sisters (see the "Share" button below):

What About Our Daughters? (a darn good question if you ask me)

I'm a Good Woman very balanced and encouraging blog by a beautiful black lady

The Angry Black Woman 

Black Women Fight Back! (contains a great listing of solutions for empowering black women one day and struggle at a time)

The New Elegant Black Woman Etiquette advice and other tips for creating an army of refined and elegant young black ladies.

For Brown Girls A website by a bright and beautiful 19-year old college student to provide support and encouragement to lovely darker-skinned ladies!

The Crunk Feminist Collective A group of hip hop generation feminists of color.

Cafe Belle A site that discusses a variety of black woman issues.

Bourgie Black Girl Sista who tells it like it is.

For Harriet The name says it all. 

Time Hills Empowering girls and women to be great. 

Inevitable Success Motivating and empowering tips for minority women.

While I might not endorse every opinion expressed on these black women empowerment blogs, I 100% endorse black women empowerment in general!

I will return with more and update this list on a regular basis.....

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Omarosa on The Ultimate Merger (comes on Thursdays at 10pm on TVone) is a pleasant surprise. Some call it the black version of the Bachelorette, but I say it's even BETTER because it's more realistically done.

Like many people who have seen the villain-ess Omarosa Manigault in action from the early days of the Apprentice, I judged Ms. Manigault as an angry and unnecessarily mean woman. I admit. But after seeing three episodes of her new TV show "The Ultimate Merger" on TVOne (10pm Thursdays) I am changing my tune a bit.

Yes, the lady is intense. But more and more I'm starting to see her other (very flattering) layers reveal themselves. Here are a few comments about the show so far:

1. For one, Omarosa is a knockout. I mean wow, you can tell this lady has taken great care of her skin, body and hair. She made me want to go get a vat of cocoa butter.

2. Secondly, this show makes it clear that Omarosa is not the one dimensional "B-word" that she's made herself out to be to become famous. In fact, she is a very multi-faceted lady. She is fearless, smart, and caring.

When one of the brothers on the show revealed that he had served time in prison, she didn't roll her eyes at him and draw a line through his name immediately. Instead she held his hands, encouraged him, and gave him a huge sisterly hug. That is what true black women are about, and that is why I love black women dearly.

3. Finally, I am glad that Omarosa made a clear statement by choosing a majority of black men (distinguished types) instead of mixing the cast up like some shows do when a black person is the chooser. I never understood why on shows like the Bachelor, it was fine for one minority to be placed on a cast of majority whites, but on black shows there has to be a fair percentage of non-blacks.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to see ignorant black men on any show, just for the sake of being black, but in this case you can tell that the producers picked well-off, professional, smart, educated black men. Yes, they do exist.  Maybe some brother should create a "classy black man" website lol.

Here is a clip from the show:

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