It's up to you, black parents, to get your kids to stop listening to ignorant rap music that could negatively affect their perceptions of life, education and loving others.

File:Brianamariaah.jpgI have had the pleasure of mentoring two beautiful young black girls.  At times I felt as if I was talking to a brick wall when I talked to them. They’d just sit there and nod. But years later I realized that a lot of those things I told them actually sunk in.

One of the themes of my talks with them was to please be more discriminating about their music choices, particularly rap music. I was very impressed when years later one of my young girls, age 10, told me that she isn’t interested in most of the popular rappers of today!

If you’re sitting there right now saying to yourself “there’s no point in even trying that with my kid, he/she is addicted to rap music” then my question to you is when did you give up? Why did you give up? 

No disrespect but let’s talk in real terms—we are the adults, the bosses in our households. As a parent, the head of your household, you're charged with guiding your young ones in the right way so that they won’t become victims of society. The fact is that ignorant rap music has been aiding in the destruction of the black community and the minds of young kids for many years now. It is time to take a stand. Here are 5 tips for how to wean your black kids off of negative rap music

1. Ask your kids what they think and why. Kids like to be treated like respected regarded human beings just like anyone else. Ask them what they think about hip hop and its effect or influence on people? Is it a good or bad influence and why?

Also, ask them flat out “are you a leader or a follower?” If you’re a leader, why are following behind what your friends listen to without investigating new music on your own?

2. Let them listen to your music. Sometimes simply exposing the young ones to something different from the c/rap that they hear every day on the radio is enough to get them interested in other or older music.

3. School them on the lyrics. Pick one of the most depraved rap songs you can think of, do a search for the lyrics online, print them out and highlight certain lines. Sunlight is the best disinfectant. 

Sit down with your child for about an hour and discuss what these lyrics actually mean. Also, talk to them about the music industry and the recent history of blacks being brainwashed (1990s and later). If you need a guideline try a book like Toward the Destruction of a Nigger Mentality, The Pruitt-Igoe Myth documentary or something similar. Even if she sits there with a bored look on her face as if she’s in school, don’t be discouraged—keep talking. They’re listening. Remember point #1: ask them what they think because their opinions do matter.

4. Expose them to more positive music from the 90s. If your child is addicted to rap and not open to other musical styles, expose him or her to more positive rap music. Back in the 90s hip hop had more progressive and revolutionary themes. For instance, while he was living Tupac was maligned by the media as a worthless common thug and he was certainly no saint. But if you REALLY listen to some of his songs he was a revolutionary rapper who wanted positive change in his community. When exposed to his music kids of today can still relate to him. Which would you rather hear coming from your kid’s room: Cashing Out by a cartoonish minstrel show rapper singing about making money off of drugs or Unconditional Love by Tupac, a song about the love he has for various people in his life. Here is a list of some other positive rap songs from the past.

5. Bribe them. When all else fails, bribe them. I've learned firsthand that bribing works with kids! Tell them that if they go one whole week without listening to rap music you’ll give them $50. Monitor their playlists. The amount goes up with each additional week. They can listen to whatever other songs they want (suggest some, again see #2 and #4). As time goes on they might just start to see their music choices differently and find inspiration in other songs even after the money incentives end.

Whether these tips work or not, the point is that you made your best effort to wean your child off of ignorant rap music that could be negatively affecting his or her perceptions of life. The earlier you start the better!



  1. Anonymous On July 23, 2012 at 5:03 PM

    Toally agree! If we dont have people buying this negative crap then they wont continue to make it....because the bottom line is they only want to make music that sells

      Anonymous On August 17, 2012 at 10:23 AM

    I like the overall idea of this article, especially numbers 1-3. But I have to slightly disagree. This post romanticizes all the music of the past and I think it's important to point out that it wasn't all "good" music back in the day or even age appropriate. (Remember Tupac's "How Do You Want It?") Th3 90s had its share of music that was both misogynistic and materialistically driven.

    Older generations will always look at the current generation's music in a different light. Our parents didn't like the rap music we listened to either. I think its more important to instill moral values into the children than what they listen to.

      CB Lady On August 18, 2012 at 11:55 AM

    @ anon2 if we were to dig into the music list of every musician out there we'd find one or two songs or lyrics we don't agree with or like. I don't think that alone should cause us to ignore when they put out very good songs / lyrics that teach and uplift.

    thank you for your comments!


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