Many young black girls 15 to 25 have little to no respect for older black men. Can we really blame them?

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A short while ago female rap newcomer Azealia Banks dissed Jim Jones publicly in an impromptu song in retaliation for him calling her a “slore” and a number of other disrespectful names.

Jim Jones couldn’t do anything but sit back and pretend that she didn’t hit him where it hurts. If he had tried to release a comeback song not only would he be looked at as a bully for “beefing” with a 21-year-old young woman he would have also probably lost a rap battle to a 21-year-old young woman. Azealia is a raw talent—she would have probably slaughtered him lyrically.

Then Funkmaster Flex, who has been continually accused of attacking female artists while giving male artists a pass, attacked Azealia Banks on the radio in defense of Jim Jones and she ripped him a new one as well.

The first thing that came to my mind was the lyric "Now they’re grown and they're sh***ng on you." Whoever said that—it escapes me at the moment—was telling the truth.

Many black young women of today ages 15 to 25 grew up not knowing many or even any positive images of black men. All they see are ignorant rappers and other black male entertainers who don’t show women their proper respect.

Deep down I believe they resent their absent fathers and other men who they feel have never been there in their time of need. So when a black male like Jim Jones or Funkmaster Flex pops up displaying all of the negative attributes that these young black women have become accustomed to seeing from black men in their communities, respect is no longer a factor. If you disrespect them, these young black girls, especially the ones who have a platform, are going to come at your head, no matter your age, position or station in life.

I think the women who grew up in my era, the 28 and above cluster, still had a few positive black man role models, whether they were fathers, uncles, brothers or entertainers. This new generation, not so much.

Many young black women who grew up in the aftermath of the crack era, most of whom had absent fathers are very angry. They know nothing but contempt for black males, especially the ones who are older than them. They have no real respect for these men, but can we really blame them?

Black girls tend to be extremely intelligent and street savvy. They catch onto trends, hard lessons and the realities of life very quickly. Some were molested as children. Others were victims of physical or mental abuse. They have never had a loving black man in their lives so they don’t know how to love or receive love from black men. Their very essence as black little girls is attacked from every angle in the media and who comes to their rescue? Save for a few black women who are vocal in the community no one really.

So can anyone be surprised if they come of age and start to make a hobby out of disrespecting and disregarding black men as unimportant?

I predict that this reality will become more pronounced as the years go on unless more strong positive black male voices (yes we know you're out there) start to make their presence known in the community and show support to black women and girls instead of staying church-mouse-quiet when their younger sisters are attacked or threatened.

Until then expect many more Azealia Banks' on the horizon.



  1. maria cummings On September 7, 2012 at 7:51 AM

    I don't even know who Azealia Banks is but I get what you're saying. A wise man once said "Show me your women and I will tell you what's wrong with your nation".
    In other words, men are suppose to be responsible for their women. I see too many black women being neglected, abused and completely forgotten by their communities and society on a whole. Our men offer us nothing but pain and suffering so it's only natural that we are breeding these types of women. It really is sad because other women never have to experience the awful sufferings that a black woman has to deal with in her life. Our men has failed us, I'm not saying there are no good black men, I'm just saying that as a community as a whole, we have failed.

      livvy On July 7, 2013 at 5:11 PM

    Very interesting piece. However, I think that this situation has been going on for a lot longer than the article suggests - I am 49 and although we did have respected entertainers back in the day, we had almost no responsible men in the UK Jamaican community when I was growing up so the scenarios described in the article were already being played out even then.


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