The video showing Lil Reese mercilessly beat on a black woman is a testament to the failure of black men to teach and instruct young black boys.

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Unfortunately, the dysfunctional nature of certain elements of the black community rears its ugly head again. In a video posted on YouTube a young rapper named Lil Reese is seen beating a young black woman whose home he apparently entered without permission.

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Even more disturbing than the video footage of him punching and stomping the young woman were the tweets that followed. Numerous young black males took to Twitter cheering him on, just as they did when the infamous uppercut video went viral.

I am concerned that this public abuse of black women is becoming a twisted form of entertainment for these black males. They take joy in watching defenseless black women get beaten on camera. If it goes unchecked it will become a trend.


To add to this steaming hot pile of dysfunction, a few ignorant and confused young black women on Twitter even thought that this young woman deserved to get beaten for "talking too much."
 
Where Are Black Men as Mentors? 

This question has been asked numerous times. Overall, black men have simply failed black boys in many ways -- this can no longer be disputed. Older black men who should be IMMEDIATELY correcting and teaching these boys right from wrong are either 1) cheering this behavior on or 2) remain eerily quiet either out of fear or secret agreement with the actions.

Also, it's worth noting here that angry black males like Lil Reese are usually angry at their mothers. They tend to take out their angst on women who look like their mothers. Their fathers or other men usually treat their mothers with disrespect, so they come to learn that this type of behavior is acceptable.

Is The Kenya Village Example a Viable Solution? 

Years ago I came across an article about a community of women in Kenya. The abuse and disrespect from their male counterparts became so extreme that these women broke off and created their own thriving community. The women have never been happier. The men suffered without the women present -- the women were the bread winners and kept the community alive.

Back then I thought this was an interesting and revolutionary but pretty EXTREME idea. But more and more as I witness the accepted, public abuse of black women in certain segments of the black community the more the idea sounds viable in certain cases.

If black males cannot at minimum properly respect and uphold black womanhood in certain areas of the United States, maybe it is time for black women who want more to think about starting self-sufficient communities where they can raise their daughters and young sons in peace and security until grown black men in those areas can get their act together. If this is the type of negative influence that is being spread among certain elements of black male culture -- total and utter disrespect and disgust with black womanhood -- then maybe it is time for a separation.

Regardless of your opinion in the matter, bottomline, black women and girls deserve a safe, supportive place to thrive.



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Sammi Jace is a professional writer from New York who blogs as a hobby. She is a self-proclaimed "black hippie" and warrior for women's rights. Find her on Twitter.


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Jay-Z and Beyoncé please own up to how you may have had a negative impact on large segments of the younger black community.

 

I know that a lot of my followers are probably not going to want to read this post. The Jay-Z and Beyoncé fandom is strong in my network. But I would rather lose a few followers than to compromise what I believe to be the truth on any day of the week.

Jay-Z and
Beyoncé have both been high profile figures in the black community for 15 to 20 years now. That is nearly a generation of influence.


Ever since Jay-Z and Beyoncé had a child it seems that they have been taking more progressive steps as a couple. For one, they both have taken a much more noticeable role in the 2012 election campaign than they did in 2008.  Jay-Z seems to be putting forth a message to younger black people that they should be more business-minded and professional. Beyoncé has shown girls that establishing their career, getting married and THEN having kids is the ideal route. I appreciate all of that. Those messages are very much needed.

But I wonder when are Jay-Z and Beyoncé going to own up to the role that they both played in the current state of affairs in the black community?


I still remember when Jay-Z first appeared on a song with Biggie Smalls, which I believe helped to propel his rap career. Back then he spent a whole lot of time rapping about slinging crack and disrespecting women.  He bragged incessantly about the things that he had which the poor black kids in his old community could never afford in 1 million years. He gave a lot of young black boys the idea that they could grow up, become crack dealers for a while and then become as successful as he is with plenty of expensive clothes, cars and jewelry. To this day he still puts out songs with these types of messages.

Beyoncé started off her career with songs like Bootylicious and Bills Bills Bills.
Beyoncé then transitioned into a hyper-sexual entertainer who Booty-shook her way to the Grammys and great success. Her performances and outfits were not very different from exotic dancing. She, like her husband, sang songs full of verses where she bragged about name brand items like Audemar watches and designer clothing. When a young impressionable mind hears a name brand quoted by her favorite artist, she is more likely to not only learn about the item but also struggle to have one too. Just one Audemar watch (retailing for up to $40,000) could probably fill a needy neighborhood school with books or computers.  While Beyoncé seems to be a very lovely lady in other respects, I cannot ignore the bad influence that she may have had on countless young black girls who aspired to be like her.

These two have been role models for MANY young black kids -- many of whom are now grown and suffering. Those black boys who thought they could be as successful as Jay-Z by dealing crack on the streets are mostly now either in jail or dead.  Many of those young girls who thought that they could booty shake their way to success like Beyoncé are now either stripping, aspiring to be video models, or whoring themselves in other ways for the attention of men. They did not get the bank account and doting husband that their idol, Beyonce did. Instead they received the "hard knock life."

Black children need role models that not only entertain, but also encourage them to be great.
  Black and Mainstream Media Outlets

When I log onto social media I see black media outlets continually praising these two people as if they suddenly descended from heaven. No -- they have been here for many, many years and both have made questionable choices in the name of success, fame and money.

Now that they have it, are we all supposed to just forget how it happened? Are we supposed to forget their influence on the black community to love money, fame, sex and drugs above all other things?

The mainstream media does us a disservice as well. Forbes recently published a list of the top 10 most powerful black women in the world. They listed Beyoncé as the third most powerful black woman in the world behind First Lady Michelle Obama and Oprah Winfrey simply because she entertains. If you look at the description of Beyonce's accomplishments it's very light compared to that of Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, the President of Liberia, who appears lower on the list.  With this type of influence coming in from the media it is not surprising that our young people are very confused. We teach them to praise superficial accomplishments.


Just Own Up to It

I would like to fully get behind Jay-Z and Beyonce as a black power couple now that they are putting out a positive, progressive influence. But I just can not do so until they first own up to the widespread negative influences they may have had on the black community in the past. The same goes for other black media "moguls" like Russell Simmons and 50 Cent who seem to be trying to reinvent themselves as community crusaders.

Everyone makes mistakes. I sure have - I do not claim to be perfect in any way. But when you are a high profile couple like Jay-Z and Beyonce I think you really do need to make amends for those mistakes. If you have such a far-reaching presence it is criminal not to publicly own up to how your past influences may have had an effect on the present. It may or may not save the adults in the black community who have already bought into the hype, but at least it would give the young people a fresh start and a new perspective on what is truly important in life.


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The "independent black woman" meme reveals a twisted brand of ignorance.

The new fad amongst young white people online is... mocking black women. Surprised? Of course not. Do a search on Twitter or Facebook for one of the following memes:

"I'm an independent black woman who don't need no man!"
"I'm a sassy black woman!"

Of course these memes come as a result of the countless media stories that have been published over the past few years spotlighting single black women. We can all thank the Washington Post and Dateline for helping spread the stereotype.

Also, more recently The Onion posted a mock article where an elderly black woman provides advice to whites by talking in Ebonics / a southern drawl. She's some kind of magical negro, and everyday whites are happy to express how much they love the piece, no matter how stereotypical and racist it is.

This is a special form of racism perpetrated by people who will adamantly say they AREN'T racist because they have one black friend.

Is It Worth Addressing?

Should we wage some kind of war against these proud racist voices? No. I don't think it is important enough for three reasons:

1. Whites who use these memes are lost, confused and secretly idolize black women. They want to be like black women in some way. I believe that deep down they are not happy with their own lives and identity, so they take on another. How would I look as a proud black woman going around calling myself as a dependent white woman who needs a man to survive? Even if said in jest, that would be a sign of a major problem within.

2. They are exposing themselves and don't even know it. They do not realize how making those types of public declarations in jest could affect their careers and livelihoods in the future. An example: Lesley Arfin, writer for the HBO series Girls made a snide remark about not being able to relate to the movie Precious in response to people who complained about the lack of diversity on the show. Immediately, folks went out and looked up her social media history. They found out that she retweeted one of those "I'm an independent black woman" memes. Turns out she is no longer writing for Girls, at least according to the show's creator, Lena Dunham. Now if you do a search for her name, articles about her racially insensitive joke pop up on the first couple of pages.

I call that a win -- one less white woman with stereotypical views about black women writing for a popular TV show. Bottomline, let folks like Lesley Arfin continue to expose their stereotypical beliefs online because karma has its way of finding them. Remember the case of the Greek runner who was banned from the Olympics after posting a racially insensitive tweet?


3. Do you really care what they think about you? I don't think this point needs an explanation, but if you do, why?

When It Invades Your World

Though I don't think it is useful to wage war against these independent black woman types in general, I do believe it is important for black women to take a stand if it enters your personal world. For instance, if you're at work and someone snaps her fingers and says "I'm an independent black woman" I think that you should immediately and firmly say "No, that's not cool. I find that offensive."

Don't go along with the "joke" and laugh because that's like giving that confused white person a pass to do it repeatedly and it will only get worse with time. Same thing for social media -- if one of your white followers RTs that phrase or one of you friends likes it on Facebook, either address them or unfollow them, or both. Be thankful that you now know what kind of white person that "friend" is -- one with racist, stereotypical beliefs and at the very least a racially insensitive personality. You don't need that in your life as you grow and flourish as a classy black lady.

So in summary, we clearly see that mocking "independent black women" and "sassy black women" has become a fad, but there are more important issues for black women to focus on. Look at this as a twisted form of fandom that may come back to bite them (nowadays all Tweets are saved by the Library Congress, even after being deleted). However, don't be afraid to open your mouth if it enters your personal world, or else you become complicit to the ignorance.


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