Is the modern sexual liberation movement about women's empowerment or attention-seeking?

I have written on this subject a couple of times, but the inspiration came to me to write about it once more, to drive this point home. After this post, I'm moving on.

For the past three or four years I'd say, a number of young (mostly college age) feminists have put out the online rally cry for "sexual liberation" as a way to achieve equality and empowerment. They look to popular celebrities like Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose as proof that it "works." They find it empowering to see their favorite celebrities use their sexuality as a calling card.

But I wonder, when will these voices that advocate new-school sexual liberation finally just admit that it's more about getting ATTENTION from men, fans and social media followers then it's about seeking liberation or empowerment for women?

There Are Other Feminist Causes to Promote
I advocate a woman exploring her sexuality in every way, in the comfort of her home with someone she cares about and who cares for her. I also see the art in our sexuality. But there's a line -- why is it that sex-positive advocates feel the need to continually make public displays of their sexuality in order to feel empowered?

Because it's not actually about empowerment for women -- it's about getting attention for themselves.

Let's take the celebrity examples I mentioned earlier as an example. They all use the new feminist idea of sexual liberation as a crutch, but in all cases they are only trying to get more attention, money and fans for themselves. They know that sex sells -- and they are products. It's all very simplistic.

If these celebrities really had concerns for women's empowerment, they would take up additional causes that affect women as a whole besides telling them to use their sexuality as a way to get power. They would use their platform to tell young girls to get an education and help them avoid domestic abuse. 

Do you know how far even $1 million would go toward cloning programs like Black Girls Rock? These woman celebrities spend that every month on shoes.

Sexual liberation is mostly about garnering attention, not about empowering women, which is why I've always given this mostly online feminist "movement" the side eye.

You Already Own Your Sexuality -- You Don't Need Permission or Acceptance
You are already sexually empowered without having to broadcast it on social media and from every rooftop. You are a grown woman with choices, and no one has the right to tell you how to make those choices. But when you choose to publicize those choices on social media and in public venues you take on a social responsibility, whether you like it or not. You have to ask yourself what is REALLY behind why you feel the need to make public displays of your sexuality. Attention. DMs from men. Likes. Retweets. Kudos. Social acceptance by peers. Money maybe.

Not the empowerment of women.

If you don't care about anyone but yourself and your own need for that attention (which all of us crave if we're honest with ourselves), then you're not going to understand or hear this message. But if you're truly concerned about the empowerment and liberation of women, you'll see the hypocrisy of the modern sex lib "movement" and how it can actually be a detriment to our progress.





  1. Phyllis Warden On February 11, 2016 at 7:17 AM

    This article is, in iteself, petty and dumb. Just because you don't find liberation in someone publicizing their sexuality doesn't mean others do not. Each woman is different. When you begin to tell someone when and how they can express their sexuality you do this thing us black women like to call "swerving out of your lane"--with that being said, stay in your lane. It is not your duty (or anyone else's for that matter) to tell a woman how, when, and under what conditions she can express her sexuality. Many women enjoy publicly expressing their sexuality with no desire for attention. When you cook and post a picture of what you have prepared, do you do it for attention from others or do you do it because you enjoy cooking and are proud of what is yours? This article made very little points to back up the idea that women who express their sexuality publicly do it for attention and it really just sounds like general salty opinion. If you don't feel comfortable doing it for yourself that's fine but shaming other women for doing so is petty and unnecessary. If you claim to be for the empowerment of women you wouldn't put them down for doing something outside of your interest.

      CB Lady On February 12, 2016 at 1:57 AM

    I don't normally publish comments that contain insulting remarks, but I'm publishing your post because I know for a fact that I'm right on this topic, and also right on time to help some young girls escape the consequences of your mentality. It's only a matter of time before many see the truth in this article and the other one posted. It has nothing to do with shaming, or religion, or "how to be a woman" and everything to do with saving the lives and futures of black girls. More older women (and men) need to stand up and say what needs to be said for the sake of future generations. Thanks for taking the time to post your comment.


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