Classy Black Women

Truth be told, Azealia Banks told no lies in her recent rant on black men who don't protect her, white men who use her and some things in between. That is the reality faced by most American black women, though most of us don't want to admit it out loud for fear of "offending" *them*.

In a world where everyone is so quick to write someone off for making contrary remarks on a social networking site, I still maintain clarity. I also have little to no concern for potentially "offending" someone when they are posing a threat to the well-being of women.

I just read a story about a young black girl named Marcie Gerald who was violently sexually assaulted by a black man on the street in Chicago and eventually killed herself due to the trauma. It made me cry. She took pills and then laid down next to her mother to die. The animal who attacked her got eight years, whereas drug charges often get 10-20 or more. 

The reality of the situation is that about 3 out of 5 black girls are sexually molested before they become adults and black women are much more likely to be sexually assaulted, abused or killed by the men they date (mostly black men) than other women. There is some major PTSD happening among black women and girls -- not just in America, but also in African countries like Nigeria. So Azealia is right about black women and girls not being properly protected. 

How many years would that perpetrator have gotten if he attacked a 14 year old white girl?

I'm surprised at the number of black women who have dismissed Azealia despite the fact that many of them have probably gone through the same types of life challenges. Growing up without a father, probably a disturbed childhood that was likely rife with abuse. It must be Stockholm Syndrome -- they have been so conditioned to protect black men that they can't advocate for themselves. We write people like Azealia off as "crazy" when it's obvious to anyone with good sense that she's lashing out publicly due to something that happened to her.

She was vilified by both black men and black women on Twitter recently for having an argument with rapper Wale. But SHE didn't go out and seek him -- HE initially challenged her after she made a few valid comments about black men not being protectors of black women. He patronized her, saying that "all women" need to be put on a pedestal. He told her that black men don't defend black women because they're somehow afraid of black women, confirming her point. If he really cared about her and talking things out, he would have called her on the phone instead of making a display on social media. Yet, as is the case with many arguments, the woman comes out looking like the only "crazy" one with problems.

I don't excuse Azealia's harsh words and approach (calling people the n- word is unacceptable), because clearly she has some serious issues that she must address with a professional or loved one. I sincerely hope she talks to someone who really cares about her and those issues. But I do understand where she's coming from. I get it. Black women are often caught in a tough spot where they feel abused, unprotected and unloved on one end, while being villainized, misunderstood and used on the other end. And it's very frustrating. And it can cause you to lash out in weird ways.

More understanding is needed  here instead of attacks and snap judgments.

Black women, please take care of yourselves. Put yourself first.




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